Monday, November 29, 2010
How do you maintain a good relationship with your children after a break up from their mother
So my question for you and my thought's are as followed. First, as a man trying to do the right thing by my children, I find myself having a difficult time because their mother is trying to drive me nuts. It gets so bad at times, I actually feel like not even bothering to try to see them anymore until they are older. However, that it not fair to my children. I try to keep this relationship between the children's mother drama free but drama always seems to find us. So how would you handle this situation? Would you take a break from seeing your children? Why do some mothers of children always seem to give the father of their child a hard time?
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To answer your question, I think they do it because most of the time the man has moved on. It is not that she wants the man back, but probably she still has built-up anger towards him. The only way they can strike back is by using the children as leverage.
ReplyDeleteI think the mother of your children is jealous of the fact you are engaged to someone else. (congrats!) I read in your last post that you are engaged to someone else. It sounds like she is using the children as an excuse to give you a hard time. My suggestion to you is take the high road! Have you ever heard of "kill them with kindness?" meaning when someone is treating you bad or acting "CRAZY" treat them kindly. Be nice to them. In the end they are the one who is going to look bad. I also, suggest that you keep trying to see your children. Your relationship with them is not about her. It is about them! They need their father in their life. Despite whatever issues (drama) she brings your way - they shouldn't be punished. You have to be the adult in this situation. Keep your emotions in check! She is only pushing your buttons because you allow it. No one can do anything to you that you don't allow. Besides no one is going to argue with themselves. Keep your conversations short and focused on the children. When can I see them? What time should I bring them home etc. If you don't fight for your children, who will you fight for? They need you to fight to see them. I don't know you,but based on your post about the homeless guy you have a heart! If you care about a stranger, than care enough about your children to endure the drama with your children's mother. If you refuse to argue with her, she will soon stop!